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By: Rose

Rose — Mon, 05 May 2008 21:32:43 +0000

I had just heard about this devastating story that took place in Texas the other day. Thank you for sharing your own personal story with us. It gives us a better understanding of the hole left in these children. I can only pray they all are placed into loving homes and become the beautiful adult you’ve become.

By: shirelybug

shirelybug — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 21:50:00 +0000

wow your story is wonderful and touches the heart and soul.recently I lost my little grandaughter to her father,my daughter passed away.now this little girl is being abused by her father and his girlfriend.I also went to court but the father lied and received custody

By: Viola Jaynes

Viola Jaynes — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 12:19:47 +0000

Sandy, I would love to hear your story sometimes. I have learned that over the years, that so many people have struggled in this area…even though they did not grow up in an orphanage. It is more common than I used to think. Age puts a lot of things in perspective, doesn’t it?

Thanks for sharing!

By: SandyCarlson

SandyCarlson — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 03:15:43 +0000

I too feel for these kids, Viola. I hope their being taken away from that abusive situation will be beneficial and that the families who embrace them will love them and respect them as children.

I know the experience of seeking that love and acceptance and feeling so unsure that it will be there the next day.The contortions I would go through in the hope of ensuring love! Nothing replaces a mother’s love; realizing that leads the way for accepting the love that comes for what it is.

God bless, Viola. Thanks for raising this issue.

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Caring for Orphans and Widows | The Anchoress — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 16:23:56 +0000

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By: Viola Jaynes

Viola Jaynes — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 15:57:44 +0000

Thank you Siggy, for reading this post. I value your input on this! For me it was a way to express how a child must manage after being separated from a “loving” environment and loving and kind parents. I so understand what you mean when you say that “parents and adults have no right to terrorize a child.” I think I will add a line to make that clear.

Thank you again for your view point on this.

By: Sigmund, Carl and Alfred

Sigmund, Carl and Alfred — Thu, 24 Apr 2008 14:33:32 +0000

Excellent post.

When all is said and done, children will most often reflect the dysfunction of their parents and the adults around them.

A child who see adults and parents oppress will end up oppressing others. The victim as victimizer is a well known truth and reality.

There is another, more nuanced reality: Parents and adults have no right to terrorize a child, ever. That kind of abuse, more than any other, will have the longest term impact on a child.

That kind of abuse can be subtle or it can be overt. It can be ongoing or sporadic. No matter how administered, terror is profoundly destructive because a young child most often does not even know he or she is being terrorized.

Make no mistake- a child who has hope, curiosity and joy taken away and is then taught that fear is ‘normal’ is a terrorized child- and that is the legacy of the Texas situation.